HANDLING THE HURTS OF THE PAST

most deep hurts emanate from betrayal but you must knw that in hurt there is treason, although betrayal hurts and hits so hard but can be healed!
So how can we handle this past pains;
1. Take the hurt as learning experiences of life.
2. Put purpose to your hurts i.e use it to reach out to hurting hearts
3. Avoid self withdrawal or tepid attitutude towards new thing God wants to do.
4. Stop lamenting on the past cause regret expresions can ruin future possibilities.
5. Dont be overrun with pain dont treat others the way they treat you so as not to perpetuate the cycle of pain.
6. Knw that the righteous reaction to anger is normal, but you must forgive!
7.have a reconcilation heart but knw that reconcilation does not restore trust immediately cos it takes years to buid trust but a minute to destroy it! And reconcilation doesnt make you stupid, for cheap promises are not a subtitute for transformation, so test before you trust again!
8. Knw whom you are and who you are not, cos u re not a super man but human with feelins and emotion who can be hurt, so dont be surprise with ur broken spirit and wounded heart, but for how long?
9. Dont hold others for standard they cant live up to but dont allow them to control your emotions, knw that u cant control the world from betraying you but you can control your actions to it.
10. Pray for the counsel of the holyspirit to knw whre God wants you to stay.
Therefore, release ursef from the relics of the past, dont live in your past, never allow the ghost of the past haunt your present, stop blame game, forgive and forge ahead with your life, FOR THERE IS NO FuTURE IN THE PAST!