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I live in united kindom aberdeen ,AB. I have a B-ENG. mechanical engineering and hoping to studing Masters in subsea engineering .I have love for all who have love for me . I have a good life , like so many other people in life I work hard and hold my head up , stay focus and strong. I treat people the way i would like to be treated.I am Here to talk and enjoy my time getting to know other people Globally. I like R&B, some Jazz, some Reggae, Hip Hop, Old School, and some Classical. I'm also a beginner golfer. I'm 5'8, 80kg. 0 children and have never been married. From reading some people's pages it looks like some need an ESL class (English as a Second Language). It has been said that attachment is the source of all misery. Attachment to people, things, feelings, ideas, attachment to anything at all causes suffering, because everything changes constantly. Everything, everyone is inherently impermanent. Nothing is static. Here today, gone tomorrow. Now you see it, now you don't. Caterpillar - butterly. By the time I've finished writing this sentence the thought that began it is already in the past. I've changed and if you're reading this you've changed too. We inhale, exhale, cells die and others replace them. Seconds tick by never to return. Somewhere in the world somebody has died, someone else is born. Change, change, change... We want to exist in a perfect unchanging blissful state. But the essence of life is change, so anything unchanging is unobtainable, therefore we exist in a cycle of craving and clinging. When we're unhappy, we crave happiness. When we're happy we cling to happiness and fear it's passing. No matter what our emotional state, at it's base lies dissatisfaction. We're never happy with what we've got. We want more; more love, more money, more things, more time. Or we want less; less hurt, less fear, less anger, less loneliness. So, where am I going with all this? I guess it's to say that in a way suffering is worth it. It's what life is made of: ups and downs. The moment of pure happiness is balanced by the moment of despair. Would you trade the happiness, give it up, if you could avoid the sorrow? Probably not. I wouldn't anyway. What would that leave you? A life of OK. No extreme highs, no extreme lows. Just day after day, moment after moment of average. Average is ok, I guess, but it might get awfully boring after awhile. And if we never felt sorrow, how would we recognize joy? What does this all leave us? Acceptance. Accept the sorrow knowing that like everything else it will change. The wheel will spin. Accept the happiness with awareness that it too will eventually pass as all things must. It seems to me that's the way to live. In that way we're encouraged to live each moment, instead of existing in a past that is no more and a future that may never be. Of course, it's easier said than done. At least for me it is. There are people who live that way.. When I'm crawling around in the dark hole of depression it's hard to remember the light still exists. And when I'm dancing in the light I tend to forget the dark. But, if I could somehow remember these thoughts, maybe life would be more satisfying, because maybe then I'd stop wishing for what was or hoping for what might be and get on with the business of enjoying what is.

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