Hi all,I wish to thank every body who has contributed in one way or the other to advise others on this forum. Sometime ago, I posted about my only kid sister getting involved in a relationship with a friend who left abroad for home to get proper medical attention as well as responding to the call of God upon his life.
Thanks for your advices and this is somehow a second concern to the issue.
It so happend that when the friend actually got home, my kid sister whom I thought was still very young in the lord was actually like his guide.
She took him to a Bible believing Church where he was being followed up spiritually and is now on both feet. He is walking without cluthes.
My concern now is this, my friend who used to be also a close friend to this man and also a siiter in the lord met them together. When I say them, I mean my kid sister, her Fiance and her sister inlaw-to be { God being her helper}The young man introduced my kid sister to her as his fiancee. It appears my friend didnt take it nicely [because the gentleman can be very proud when he wants to be and to add to that my kid sister is aso well bred, a good reason for any normal gentleman to be proud ].
My friend came online asking me if I was aware of the relationship. I told her my kid sister had talked to me about it, but I asked her her point. She said, I should ask my kid sister to end the relationship because she deos not see the man as a changed man.
I told my friend outrightly that, we are talking about somebody who is older than both of us, who is not only responsible of his actions but who knows he is living by Gods special favor with a Divine mission set to accomplish.
I also told her, my kid sister may be 23 but she is responsible enough to make decisions and asked her reasons for such a comment to me.
When she did not give me any concrete reason like .......... whatever reasons we may imagine, I just ignored her comments.
However, I was not angry but I was very firm and made her understand I was going to stand by my sister and fiance anywhere anytime. However, as we speak,it has been over a month since we talked about this and my friend has not showed up again to talk with me as usual. I repeat, she was very close to me and I hold many secrets about her which many people dont, I mean to say we were close friends. I also want to mention that when this guy was back here abroad and he shared his desire to get a partner, I personally recommended this same friend to him, and He told me clearly that she is not the kind of woman who is ever going to cross his mind for a spouse. So he wiped out the idea totally and completely from the scene.I made this proporsal because, before we both travelled abroad, He was very close to her, I mean very close and I think she loved him very much. I didn`t propose my sister either, I had no idea they were going to meet and fall in love.
So friends, please what do I do, its like I have lost my friend to jealousy and at the same time it looks like my kid sister is allready having enemies to a relationship she has not yet gotten into? I dont understand how to handle this, it looks so stupid but at the same time, it is like, this is for real! Thanks , your opinion respected!