I am in a dilemma. My wife is very unhappy and I feel that we are not going to make it.

To start from the beginning, I met my wife 3 years ago while we both were working. She was in grad school working part-time and I worked part-time outside of my full-time job. When I met her I was going through a separation, and awaiting the 90 days to file for divorce. When I first saw her I knew and felt she was the one for me. She was so independent and self-efficient I thought I wouldn’t have a chance with her. During this time I had been seeing a young girl in her twenties three years prior. This female was just a get-away for me when I would get into with my wife, but she was never going to be my woman officially.

I started perusing my current wife. We both liked sports. We both had children, and she was divorced two years prior. We started dating. We held so many intellectual conversations that I just wanted her, but on the back end the other girl was still lingering. My wife was upfront about how she was in a relationship before; her husband was a cheater and that wasn’t the type of relationship she wanted now. I agreed. So, it progressed quickly.

After 6 months I decided to tell her that I had cheated with the girl. She knew her from our job. I couldn’t stand knowing what I did, so I came clean. She was upset and she didn’t talk to me for a month and half. I was seriously miserable without her. I promised her I wanted to be a better man and wanted to change. We got back together. Things started getting better and eventually we moved in together.

After we moved together I proposed after our first year in our home together. She said yes. I was very happy. Then, my oldest daughter started making problems and my fiancé moved back to her house so we can work through our problems before selling her own home. Even though I was in love, engaged, and still in our relationship I started sleeping with my ex from the store. I was telling my fiancé I was working overtime, or, I knew that on Sundays she spent with her children, so I met with my ex.

Fast forward, and my ex got pregnant. I didn’t come clean with my wife because I was scared she would leave me. Her mother got breast cancer and we all moved up north so she could help her mother. I felt I was free. After that year passed we got married. We had a beautiful wedding. A month later she’s home and I was served with court papers for child support. Now, over the last year she has been harassed through text messages and pictures from this girl. She has sent my wife the voicemails and text messages that we exchanged. Now, my wife is at the point where she is contemplating getting a divorce. I love her and I am truly in love with this woman. She has changed me for the better. I’m faithful to her since moving, but she doesn’t trust me at all. I’m sick everyday knowing that one day it may be over. Please help. I’m on my last leg. – In Love and Wanting My Wife