I’m writing you because right now I’m kind of in a situation where I know something, but I don’t know if I should say something.

I am a newly divorced woman. While married I became friends with another married couple through my ex-husband. We would go on outings together, have dinners, and even movie nights whenever we could find the time.

I became really good friends with “Tia.” We spent an adequate amount of time together. I was there with her through her miscarriage, and her husband’s infidelities. She’s been there for me through my divorce. We literally been through every up and down there has been since we’ve been friends (2 years).

While married I made it my mission to only befriend happily married women, but since my divorce I’ve been hanging with an old single friend of mine. I’ve spent a great amount of time with her and her friends, some married, some in relationships, and some single. I’ve also found time to spend with Tia.

Now, my friend had a pamper party where she invited myself, one of her single friends Courtney, and her best friend Jenn. We all had been drinking a lot when Jenn began to talk about this guy she was seeing. She stated he was married, which automatically made me feel some type of way because I’m an ex wife. She went on to say that she has a video of the guy she’s seeing and that she’s using it as blackmail just in case his wife calls her. She then began to pass around her phone of this disturbing video of him and her where she’s the top and he’s the bottom. Once I got the phone I instantly knew it was him because he has this distinctive tattoo on a certain part of his body. The tattoo is visible with clothes on, but in this case the clothes were off. I played it off, “Like girl, what’s his name so I can know to avoid guys with that name,” and she says his name. I was in shock, but had to play it cool.

My thing is Tia’s husband gay? I really don’t know because it was him and a woman, but at the same time does Tia know about this? I don’t know if I should tell her because they’re in a good place right now and I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news. I feel like if it gets out Tia will no longer consider me as a friend because I do have pictures with her husbands’ mistress on my ***** page. I’m really stuck.