Please pals. What's your advice to me concerning this, am a ...

Please pals. What's your advice to me concerning this, am a young man hoping to settle down soon but the problem is that the woman I dated for 3years plus now is not my test of a woman but all because I was trying forcing myself to love her hoping the longer we spent in the relationship the more the luv will grow in my heart but am getting to find out oda way round, the more we are together the more the feelings drop out my heart. Is it good for one to marry a woman cus of pity? Pity in the sense that I met the said lady 3\4 years ago when I was with no penny in fact I was den squad with a friend in a room after my skul when I knew her, she stood by me praying with me wishing me better and God help me setup a little business in which it has become very big business today, I have rented 3bedroom flat furnish and other thing I have achieve tro it all this after a year I meet her, at the starting of the business she was a lady that always go about with me pasting posters fasting together and so on for the business growth.

The problem is that am finding it difficult to luv her even from the beginning and not that I have seen oda lady, I know that you may ask why did I approach her at first point which I knew I didn't luv her but my ANSWER is that i taught I will get to luv her with time which is not working as I taught of. 2nd due to my then condition I was unable to approach my choice lady, do I know I had made a mistake in my taught, am pleading you guys forgive me for that.

Am writing this with tears in my heart for nothing else but because when I remember the pain she been tro with me at the past, way she luv me, trying to put myself in her shoe how she gonna feel but bellow is the question that keep ringing in my ear that I want u help me out.

My QUESTION IS
Is it good to marry someone base on pity?

Is it good to marry someone you are finding it difficult to truly love?

How can u imagine what could be a behavior of a man in marriage with a lady that only love him while he can't luv her for a return?

If breakup is your advice what way or manner do u think I can use to break up with her without to hurt her feeling with much pain?

Who knows if break up with her could be for both of us good cus it could help use find who will truly luv us and we luv them back as a return which that is true luv.

WHAT SHOULD I DO?
To break up? Reason.
To marry out of pity? Reason.
Or what is your opinion?.

Thanks...

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