Wish some ladies will have the time to read this.
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced
by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And
this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more
men than women then, or there was an adequate
corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values and
were prepared to build a home and not park into a built
home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife and
the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case.
Ask an average girl to define her dream
husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome,
fair, and rich,
own a house at least,and bepresentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and the number
of men that meet that standard, and you will see the
problem. You hear girls say,
"I cannot suffer in my father's house and
then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream!
What if from the beginning, you have
everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and
end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of girls give of
their ideal man is virtually the same.
When 50 girls want the same kind of man
and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick
one.Then, what becomes of 49 others?
They simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a
man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things
these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet
fraud); Even the number of those in Internet fraud is not
enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of
the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are
ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are
married and not complaining of husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may
be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making
him, without a help mate and then made the woman and
gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM!!!
It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out
of poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS...
DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to
where God has destined him to be
tomorrow.
Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop
setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the
physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP
OF.
And that which he is made of is, most
times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can
be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
Relax and go to God in prayer.
God did no