My guy, i'm currently in the same dilemma as you.....maybe. i have a fiancee in Nigeria, while i base in the state. i constantly if not often think about this issue and related issues of some sought. our relationship have lasted 2 years and two months as of today. the relationship have its up and down, multiple attempts to break up and crazy amount of argument and insults. in the cause of this two years, i have vex to break up close to 10x if not 20x and recently she has started not to give a ***** . i have had relations here in the states, but i choose not to keep a girlfriend....because i believe in this relation and i want it to work, besides keeping girlfriends would be a distraction and might have a big impact in a thing i want so much. i have visited Nigeria twice, each visits lasted 10 days each. we spoke everyday twice, and i rarely dictate to her on what to do and not do. i gave her allowances of 150-200 every month and half, but haven't done that recently.
NOW, WHY DO I SAY ALL THIS THINGS?. Well, i want you to know that keeping relation in Nigeria while you base abroad required a lot of work, dedication, patient, trust, a lot of trust and prayer. ALSO, you need to remember not every 6 billions of us human are the same. some are honest and most are bad. the amount of trust a girl/woman posses depend on her background, especially the kind of house hold she came out of, NOT the kind of friends she has.
AgaiN, has she ***** or ***** ing someone else during our relation?/ or Why Naija Babes can't keep there legs close for longer than 4 months.??? this kinda questions are hard to answer, and if i might be honest with you...i believe some naija girl can obtain from sex longer than some girl. 4,5,6, months or a year? i don't know.
DID MINE STAY LONGER, an APPROXIMATE 1yr and 3months? offcourse, i dont know and i do think about it because i'm a human. i talked about it with her and she denied doing such thing. even though vagina doesn't read meter, but there's a big differences between used up vagina, fairly used and the once with couple tenths of miles on 'em. mine is intact, according to my manhood and the reactions she respond to in bed.
My messages to you is to find a girl you love and the one whom reciprocate the love. stay honest if you can, give her all she want and needs and make sure you communicate with her openly about every and all things. Give her times, let her do her thing. forget about her ***** ing another NIgga and just leave your life. if she's truely yours, she wouldn't cheat and if shes not, she would.
All in all, ALL naija girls are not a cheat, mine girl been one of them until i truthful caught her in action and find a sign of dishonesty. and if this ever happen, i will move on to my second plan. untill this day happen.....I say All Naija girl are not the same, even though most of them are ugly money hungry, loose vagina bitches. while, some of them are honest and worth loving. God bless, good luck in finding your true love.