my dear pals! compliment of the season to you all. pls i really need ur help. Life they say is a teacher, until you stumble on one experience you won't learn. presently, my experience has put me in a serious tot that i don't even know how to get out of now. i'm 32 now. i work in an Oil Commission in Niger Delta area of Naija. ws married b4 wit a kid but due to 1 issues or the other, that contract didn't work. since then hv bin tryin to be very careful but on a faithful day while in the office, a guy as usual (toasters) aproached me 4 a r/ship. it started like a joke but as days go by he kept disturbing, putin up a proposal 4 marriage and comin 2 wait 4 me 2 drop me off after closin. gradually, i found out he was serious being a likeable person, i decided 2 get close at least 2 knw him. In d process, he begd me 2 love him cos he wnts me 2 b his wife. With dis definition and having known he's my kind of man, i loved him and leaved with him like a husband wetin 4 him to do d necessary moves 2 d church, family etc. but i later noticed flimzy excuses from him and excusin me frm his house dat the landlady does not welcome visitors weneva she is around even me a wife 2 b. i gave him d space he needed only 4 me 2 dicover dat he sleeps with another girl within those period. he denied having anytin 2 do with d girl but jst a frnd. i belivd cos i didnt wnt 2 hot mysef. finally, i realised he was not ready, i cald him severally 2 let him knw he's not encoragin d whole tin. later he sed he cannot cope with denomination i belong (redeemed, he's a catholic). several other unpleasant issues came up lik sayin his family comes first which i noticed by his action one day, litu issue puts us off each other most times that i will end up begin even if i'm nt at fault u know! so i became confused and tried 2 back out by tryin d other gate wen we had d last issue. frnds came and settled us. bc i love him i excepted him back put shockingly, in d affair, i've neva bin preg 4 him but wit d contact wit d oda guy i didn't know i was hukd up. i noticed i ws preg a month after we settled i became happy cos i lov him but d scan i did showed dat d oda guy ws responsible. it was a disapointment cos i neva wnted 2 date other not 2 tuk of being hukd. i tuk care of mysef but still battle with d fact that i now noticed he is having a relative infatility problem. i tried 2 help him find solution but he never yielded to it . out of pain i tod him d truth. he related it 2 his family members. they are now blaming me and telling him not to continue cos i'm an infidel. this is where d confusion lies. we can't part frm each other bc we are so attached 2 each other now despite all odds but we cannot marry cos of dis clox. he sed each time he tries to make amend they always put that to him as fact that i we not make a good wife. what do i do? help me with ur candid avdice.