My name is favour, am 26 years old. Close to where I work, I met this elderly woman. Her name is Julia. She’s Successful, Classy, and Exposed. All her kids base and school abroad, and she speaks like she’s based abroad for a long time. Her kids are far older than me. She takes care of herself as if she’s never given birth before. She looks like under twenties. I said to myself that, I would like to be like her. Then one day she came into my office (cos my office is an Estate Firm) to make an enquiry about a property. When she was about leaving she left her contact number. Then I did something bad. When she left, I picked her number and then I started texting her, that mummy I like you, I would like you to be my mentor. Ma, how did you to started in life? What are the steps I should take to become like you, you, know. Mummy I want us to have a Mother, daughter relationship. Then she said that the person behind the text should show herself. That she doesn’t bite. Then I showed up and told her that mummy, am the person behind those texts. She looked down on me, and as if am not her class, she said I can come to see her in her office anytime. I felt inferiority complex and therefore didn’t go to her to see her in her office (cos her office is just a few blocks away from my office). But I still text and call her, check up on her to know how she’s doing. Sometimes if I call her and she doesn’t pick I drop the call. She always calls back. Sometimes I summon courage to go see her in her office. She even introduced one of her daughters to me. But each time I go to see her she doesn’t even smile for once. She stopped picking my calls or calling me back. I got angry and respectfully texted her that am I disturbing you ma? All I wanted was for us to have a mother daughter relationship. Then the next day she sent her staff to call me twice, the second time I heeded her call. When I got into her office, she called one of her classy friends to stand as a witness, that I should stop calling or texting her, that she got to where she is today, by God’s grace. That if I want a mentor, I should go to a Pastor. All I confided in her, she was just saying it out for her friend and staff to hear. ( her staff are jealous of me and am sure they spoiled my name to her and her husband. (Cos her husband usually comes to her office). Even in my office there are envious bad belle people that are friends with Julia’s staff. When I left her office that day, I was deeply hurt. I cried. I wanted to learn things from her, get her elderly and motherly counsel on how to go about my life. All I wanted in her is a mother, a mother I could always confide in, that would counsel me, that would not push me away no matter what I tell her, a mother to guide me you know ( I have come into some money I want to invest). I was never interested in her money or connections. (Not that if she decides to help me you know, that I wouldn’t accept). I wanted to be a real daughter to her, each time her kids are not in the country she could always call me to come wash or cook for her and I would do it. Even though I know she has people to do it.
Now Xmas is nearby and I would really love to spend this Xmas with her and her family but she doesn’t know that. (I want to get her and her family a dinner set this Xmas)but I don’t know if I should do that or if she would accept it.
Pals do you think, me and this woman can ever be friends, Mentor and a Mentoree? What can I do to make her see me as a daughter? Pls. tell me what to do. I have been blessed by God with some money, which I intend to invest into a business full time. And I need a mentor (Successful ones). Is there any hope for Me and Julia? What can I do? Pals I really need you to tell me what to do. Each time she sees me sometimes she’s angry sometimes she’s friendly. Should i still keep going close to this woman? She is my role model. Your advise will be duly appreciated. Thanks.