hi guys. pls i need ur advice on this pressin issue. have been going steady with this particular guy. he his alright except he has this bad temper. b4 we started dating he told me he alredy had a 9years old daughter, i said ok dats no problem am cool with dat. i asked him where the daughter is he said she is with her mother dat they dint get married it was ought of wedlock. after we started dating for some months now i noticed have never seen him call the daugther for one day, i got worried then i asked him y he dosent call his daughter. then he told me he has not seen the daughter since she was 2 years old and that that was the last time he spoke to his daughter i aske y he said the mother is diabolic, she is a lyer, etc he dint say anything good about her. i told him dat was not a good enough excuse not to get intouch with his daughter. he said dats is his own decision dat wen its time for his daughter to look for her father she will find him. to me i tink its weird. since then have been worried dat wat kind of man will abandon his child cause of the mother. have been begging him to please contact the child he refuse for more than 5month now i remind him almost everyday. now he his talkin about kids with me how many kds he wants, and all that, i am findin it hard to flow with him on dat terms. am beginig to tink what if we get married and started having kids nd one day we fight is dat how he will abandon the kids with me? its scarey. have been in dat situation b4. ma mom single handedly took care of me nd ma kid sis cause of this seperation issue btwn ma mom and ma dad and i knw wat my mum went through to make me who i am today. i dont want to go through what ma mum has gone. so pls i neede ur advice cause right now if he his not redy to look for his daughter i may have to break up with him cause this shows he his not redy to b a father yet.