I am 22 years oyinbo girl from Europe. 3 years ago I met yor...

I am 22 years oyinbo girl from Europe. 3 years ago I met yoruba guy, 26 years old. I fell in love with him and I felt he also. We were dating as like 6 months. We lived together. After that we decided move to another country and my man has been deported from there to Nigeria, because his visa expired. By this time I knew am pregnant, but anyway I decided go to Nigeria after him. I spend there wonderful time. He took care of me a lot, because temperature, food and new enviroment was too hard for me to stand for months. I never new he can be so good for me. I met his family and we get married. After that, because of pregnancy I came back to my country. Bearing his surname I applied for visa for my husband. Embassy rejected my application. They told me he would come for 3 years. Since that time we were for distance. Our relation was so cold. He stopped calling me, asking about me and pregnancy. I knew something is wrong, but I keep quite, coz I couldnt stress coz of the baby. After I gave birth to wonderful baby boy, he called me few times to ask about him or he asked for some pics. He never helped me financialy. One day I was searching after him and I found his pictures with another white girl somewhere in Africa. From his friends I knew the girl is new candidate for wife. I was so sad. After few months, of course I didnt hear from him for all this time, I found this girl and she has got the same surname as like me and my son. Which means he married her. I was so down, not because of me, because my love for him long time ago stopped. Just am sad for my son. He doesnt care for him or his existence. My son is now 15 months and for all this time he never asked after him. As I saw on pics of our mutual friends, he has got fun with new wife and traveling around the world, without knowing my son is alive. Of course now I applied for divorce and removal of parental rights. Did I make it right? When I cancel his surname, should I leave it for my son or also cancel it? Is that possible to african man can deny his own flesh and bones? and if its possible get married when already man is married? Its not about me and our marriage, but his son. I always tot african guys are the best fathers ever, but he proves me I am wrong... I like nigerian men....I know a lot about nigerian culture...but am scared I wont be ready to trust again...or should I?

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