I’ve got mail. This is what was in my inbox today. A few questions from whom I assume is a fellow American. I sent an honest reply. Im curious What Nigerians think about my answer. Only cuz I truly want to understand and learn more about your culture. this man seems to hate Nigerians. I wonder what he is doing here then? Please read all the way through so you dont get insulted. It's not the objective. Im curious how Nigerians feel about Americans who think they have superior intelligence and yet possess such shallow minds. that is how I interpret this from this mans email to me.
Q: Just readz your mini bio. Now I gots a question. Have you always dated black men? And if it's is a new thing for you, do you think it's your way of fighting midlife crises? Weird questions I know. But hey, somebody's gotta ask.
A: Hello G,
So you think Im a MILF? LOL now that is rich. Yes middle aged. Yes was scammed once by a yahoo boy. Instead of letting it sour me I dove deep into answers. Found a culture that interested me. A country I would’ve otherwise never known anything about. Steeped in superstition and culture. GOD fearing people yet many do such unchristian like things. Some Nigerians dont seem to read completely and spew out their mouths such heinous crap that makes them sound ignorant. But is that so different than the idiots here in America? We have some pretty ignorant and racist people here too. Hello have you been to the south? Hell, its everywhere here. I happened to find a few Nigerians that are actually intelligent and can hold conversation on all modern levels. And as I speak to more of them I find more and more. Their beliefs may be different but I dont close my mind to understanding them. Come to find out, many Nigerians are very highly educated they just cant find work in their homeland. Sounds familiar huh. We are having the same problem in USA these days. I dont condone the criminal activities of Nigerians anymore than I condone it here in USA. We may not have yahoo boys, but we do have some of the most repugnant minds world wide: Charles Bidiker, Richard Ramirez, Ted Bundy, Chales Albright and even the Unibomber etc....So what's your beef with 9JA?
So to answer your question. No I have never dated a black man or any ethnic man before. But not so shallow minded to close the possibility. Mid-life crisis? No I dont think so. Just the toothless shit in my area are a bunch of drunkards, drug addicts, married, cheaters or otherwise not what I seek. Americans just want a hook up, trophy gf etc.. I seek a like mind, ambition, desire, passion, compassion and someone who truly digs me no matter what their skin color. So after years of searching, I find a black Nigerian man who fits these wants. So whats the problem? It doesn't affect your life one way or the other.
Another thing, you know nothing about me to make such an assumption that Im a MILF or Cougar. So I will tell you a little bit about myself. Was married with child. After two bouts of cancer my husband dies when I was 33. Devoted myself to finish raising our daughter on my own without interference of any man. It was difficult and I still struggle today. She is successful and now 23. I figured it was time for me to start dating in 2010. Problem with American men my age is most still have small children at home. Im not looking to raise a family again. I have no problem with grown children or almost grown. Bored with my current job so Im looking into humanitarian efforts in undeveloped countries. Not so easy to do. At least not in the capacity I want for my life. So I went to Nigeria fell in love with a culture. Developed feelings for a man who helped me orchestrate my charitable deed and the rest is history. So mid-life crisis or just something that happened along my journey? I have always had a deep sense of connection with Africa since I was an innocent child. Probably came from mom always saying eat your dinner dont you kn
