Please i nid ur candid advice.am a gurl in my... i will say 28yrs but i leave in the states.So many pple have been askin my hand in marriage but none of them are in the states except one but they r not in nigeria too,they r in other countries.The other person here with me but he is in another state have been talkin on the fone for over two years naw but we hav not even seen each other except pictures.He hav been inviting me to cum over to california but i wantd him to visit me first if hes serious with me., but all he is sayin is dat he will marry me.i used to talk to every members of his family on fone even with his mum too but 4 me dat dosent make sense.So there is this other guy in anoda country i dont even knw him,i hav not even seen him only his pictures ooo but we talk on the fone dat my dear parents wanted me to settle down with,he is 8 yrs older than me.Accordin to them they said the guy is from my place,dat he came from a gud family background,dat they knw him very well,dat he is the one that will take gud kia of me and so on can u imagine dat!.i have been talkin to him on the fone but i kinda fall in luv with him and i fing he is a gud person but am not sure yet cos i hav not even seen him..As of naw they have even done the introduction and our weddin has been fixed by dec 2010.We will b cumin dwn to naija for the weddin n dat wil b the first tyme we will be seeing each orda.its crazy u knw!The problem naw is am havin double minds abt this guy and i cant say weather i lov him or not,even if i decided to call off the weddin my parents will disown me cause they really want him to marry me but no matter wat i hav my plans they aint doin any shi**t either i will not be in naija by dec or i will tell them to postponed that weddin till mayb easter next year so dat i can go over to the country where he stays and visit him,and see hw he is leaving in his own enviroment too.pls i nid matured minds to advice me abt this issue cos i dnt want to get into wat i will regret tomorrow.Thansz