Is honesty always the best policy?
Feb. 2nd 03:36 AM 2011
Wanting someone to know you for who you are, or trust you, sometimes giving too much information leads to the opposite result. Let"s face it everyone has a past there is no way to get around that. Some may be good, and some not so good. You have the power to bury it where you left it, or if you choose to carry it along into you future then you must also be ready to face the repercussion. It is not enough to just assume that people who come into your life will never use what they know or have learned from other sources against you when there wanting to hurt you.
You can expect when everything is going good there is nothing to worry about, but when the chips are down what information rather true or untrue does that person have to go to battle with you? We all want to win an argument, and there is no better way to accomplish the win but by finishing a person with what is going to pull at their heart the fastest. When your angry most people can care less if what they say to you hurts that is one it is called an argument, and if all arguments or misunderstandings ended well then there wouldn"t be broken relationships, divorce, people seeking revenge, etc. I also wouldn"t be writing this either.
So I ask is honesty the best policy? My resounding answer is no, no, and NO. Don"t feed more information than is necessary, because what your doing really is carrying that baggage into your future. Past hurts, pains, failures should never be spoken about in depth, because once it is said the information you disclosed is no longer owned only by you. Is this the risk you really want to take? No one has the right to use what you have disclosed in good faith against you, so be careful the information you put out there.
I am not telling you to lie or be decietful but you must ask yourself does that person you are telling your whole life too give you the same honor? My guess would be no. Some things are better yet unsaid. If you were able to weather through some tough situations in your past don"t allow others to know how much you can or can"t stand, because then your held to that same standard.