This lady is at the verge of takin drastic decision pls help? This lady got married 4 months ago to a 34yr old man who waz her boss. She helped him secured a big job and right now both of them are doing the business together. 2weeks ago, she discovered her hubby was married with 2 kids who were living in another city. She confronted him about it and he didn’t deny it buh rather apologised and promised to divorce his first wife and kids for her. Note; she was married properly (both traditional, white and court wedding were been performed) and the lady in question is 2 months pregnant. If you were in her shoes what will you do or what will you advice her to do?
Posted: at 13-04-2011 11:40 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
chiglamour4u at 13-04-2011 11:44 AM (13 years ago) (f)
watin happen don happen since d man still show love and care wat else she shld take it the way it is
Posted: at 13-04-2011 11:44 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
She did court wedding? That could mean the man was not properly wedded to the first wife...otherwise, he should be jailed for bigamy! As for the lady, she shouldn't take any decision in a rush or in her present state of confusion cos she might end up making the wrong decision but she shouldn't delude herself that the man would divorce his first wife; why didn't he divorce her before getting into another marriage? Pity she's pregnant, she could have just divorced the 2 faced, 2-timing husband but as it is now....I wouldn't advice an abortion; she should wait and see how the drama unfolds but shouldn't believe all what her hubby says.....subsequent events would help her make up her mind whether to stay in d marriage or move ahead with her baby.
Posted: at 13-04-2011 11:48 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
dirtykid at 13-04-2011 11:57 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Pepesy on 13-04-2011 11:40 AM
This lady is at the verge of takin drastic decision pls help? This lady got married 4 months ago to a 34yr old man who waz her boss. She helped him secured a big job and right now both of them are doing the business together. 2weeks ago, she discovered her hubby was married with 2 kids who were living in another city. She confronted him about it and he didn’t deny it buh rather apologised and promised to divorce his first wife and kids for her. Note; she was married properly (both traditional, white and court wedding were been performed) and the lady in question is 2 months pregnant. If you were in her shoes what will you do or what will you advice her to do?
Unfair attitude from the man, why he couldn't tell the lady at first that he got family somewhere, whether wedded with the first woman or not, He should be open and fair to the newly wedded wife .
I think the lady shouldn't do anything nasty, as long as the man didn't deny the lady and the kids somewhere, She should stick to the man, is already too late, the man is simply polygamist type with style.
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Posted: at 13-04-2011 11:57 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
She did court wedding? That could mean the man was not properly wedded to the first wife...otherwise, he should be jailed for bigamy! As for the lady, she shouldn't take any decision in a rush or in her present state of confusion cos she might end up making the wrong decision but she shouldn't delude herself that the man would divorce his first wife; why didn't he divorce her before getting into another marriage? Pity she's pregnant, she could have just divorced the 2 faced, 2-timing husband but as it is now....I wouldn't advice an abortion; she should wait and see how the drama unfolds but shouldn't believe all what her hubby says.....subsequent events would help her make up her mind whether to stay in d marriage or move ahead with her baby.
Tnx 4 ur contributn Yes d dude shuld ve divorced d first wify if he wz 4 real buh as it stands,,,, l guess he married her 4 money simply coz of d big biz d girl helped him 2 secure and he doesnt wnt 2 loose d biz dat's y he promised to divorce d first wify
Posted: at 13-04-2011 11:58 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
She did court wedding? That could mean the man was not properly wedded to the first wife...otherwise, he should be jailed for bigamy! As for the lady, she shouldn't take any decision in a rush or in her present state of confusion cos she might end up making the wrong decision but she shouldn't delude herself that the man would divorce his first wife; why didn't he divorce her before getting into another marriage? Pity she's pregnant, she could have just divorced the 2 faced, 2-timing husband but as it is now....I wouldn't advice an abortion; she should wait and see how the drama unfolds but shouldn't believe all what her hubby says.....subsequent events would help her make up her mind whether to stay in d marriage or move ahead with her baby.
Tnx 4 ur contributn Yes d dude shuld ve divorced d first wify if he wz 4 real buh as it stands,,,, l guess he married her 4 money simply coz of d big biz d girl helped him 2 secure and he doesnt wnt 2 loose d biz dat's y he promised to divorce d first wify
In this case, the lady doesn't have a husband but a guy digging for gold.....when he finds another woman who could guarantee or generate more money-spinning businesses, he'll dump her and move on....I tell u, his first wife still stands!
Posted: at 13-04-2011 12:06 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
She did court wedding? That could mean the man was not properly wedded to the first wife...otherwise, he should be jailed for bigamy! As for the lady, she shouldn't take any decision in a rush or in her present state of confusion cos she might end up making the wrong decision but she shouldn't delude herself that the man would divorce his first wife; why didn't he divorce her before getting into another marriage? Pity she's pregnant, she could have just divorced the 2 faced, 2-timing husband but as it is now....I wouldn't advice an abortion; she should wait and see how the drama unfolds but shouldn't believe all what her hubby says.....subsequent events would help her make up her mind whether to stay in d marriage or move ahead with her baby.
Tnx 4 ur contributn Yes d dude shuld ve divorced d first wify if he wz 4 real buh as it stands,,,, l guess he married her 4 money simply coz of d big biz d girl helped him 2 secure and he doesnt wnt 2 loose d biz dat's y he promised to divorce d first wify
In this case, the lady doesn't have a husband but a guy digging for gold.....when he finds another woman who could guarantee or generate more money-spinning businesses, he'll dump her and move on....I tell u, his first wife still stands!
True talk dear. Dat's y she's very confused nd needs gud advice right now
Posted: at 13-04-2011 12:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac