Abusive Relationship! CONTROLLING MEN

Date: 11-04-2011 11:05 am (12 years ago) | Author: uduak Sophia Monday
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- at 11-04-2011 11:05 AM (12 years ago)
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The number of women dealing with controlling men in this world is very large. Many men are egoistic and have the habit of dominating or 'controlling' their wives or girlfriends. They want their partner to dance to their tunes and follow their instructions without any sort of protest or arguments. Dealing with controlling men in relationships can be tough for women, but it is possible if they understand the mentality or the controlling men behavior perfectly.  
          
1. What are the controlling men warning signs & symptoms or characteristics of the personality of controlling men.

2. Why do Women Fail to Identify Controlling Men?

lets go there!


Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:05 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- FlyMamacita at 11-04-2011 11:14 AM (12 years ago)
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Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.
Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:14 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 11:18 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11-04-2011 11:14 AM
Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.

 Huh?
why do u say so?

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:18 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 11-04-2011 11:25 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 11-04-2011 11:18 AM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11-04-2011 11:14 AM
Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.

 Huh?
why do u say so?
The line between a controlling man and a submissiv woman is small.
A controlling man dusn always mean he is a bad person, or he is treating his wife bad...Sombody gotta take
d lead, so why not him.
A lot of women need a man like dat, to help them live their lives,, som womn no knw how to make
decisions, run the family, things like dat.

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:25 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- chicanorose at 11-04-2011 11:33 AM (12 years ago)
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men prefer submissive women. ie do as i say.and it is very difficult for women to get to talk to such men

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:33 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bittersweet at 11-04-2011 11:35 AM (12 years ago)
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He/she keeps track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between u & ur family or friends.This is in order to isolate u from others.

Does the person ignore ur experience?Controllers attempt to define ur reality.If u say u're tired & d person says u're not, that's a good sign he or she is a controlling person.

Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions.Controlling ppl often assume that they understand how u think, even when they actually don't.They may become frustrated because their constructed image of u is at odds with what u say.

Be on d lookout for moodiness. Ppl with moody personalities r often unhappy with their own lives & try to improve their situation by controlling others.

Be aware of people who don't seem to understand d word "no" & who will insist until they wear u down to make u give in.

Consider if u r often expected to change ur plans for this person.Let's say u have ur day all planned out & then u receive a phone call from a friend,& u tell them ur plans.The person wants to join in with ur plans,with d exception that ur time doesn't work well for them,or maybe that isn't d place they want to go.The next thing that u know,ur plans have totally changed.U end up seeing a movie that u didn't care to see,at a time that u didn't really care to go.

Listen for compliments.Often ppl with control issues r not very good at giving sincere compliments.They don't want u to feel good about yourself because it may take control & attention away from them.

Be on d lookout for not only moodiness,but temper outbursts by d other person when u disagree with them or don't do exactly what they want u to do. In their minds,u r challenging their authority over u.

But,keep in mind, just because someone is opinionated doesn't mean they r controlling. A good test to tell d difference between some1 who is just very opinionated or controlling is if they willingly accept or tolerate differences between u and them and don't try to change any part of ur core person or personality.

If u really love this person things can be much more difficult.Most ppl who r controlling always throw in d argument the words "U r d problem" or U have a problem." Nothing is ever their fault.

They always use words like " do this" ", "if u leave", "u need to...", etc.

They can be very generous & seem to give u lots of things.So u always feel like u're benefiting from them in some way & so owe them something. They then use that obligation u feel towards them to control u.

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:35 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 11-04-2011 11:38 AM (12 years ago)
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BS i hail oo
Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:38 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 11-04-2011 11:41 AM (12 years ago)
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 Wink Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:41 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- truenaija2 at 11-04-2011 11:42 AM (12 years ago)
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me i know them by their fruit their very first attribute is arrogance Sad, and i donthave any business with such trash people , but in a month of relationship with that person u will know
Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:42 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 11:43 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11-04-2011 11:35 AM
He/she keeps track of your relationships. A controlling person will try to cause trouble between u & ur family or friends.This is in order to isolate u from others.

Does the person ignore ur experience?Controllers attempt to define ur reality.If u say u're tired & d person says u're not, that's a good sign he or she is a controlling person.

Notice people who get frustrated with normal questions.Controlling ppl often assume that they understand how u think, even when they actually don't.They may become frustrated because their constructed image of u is at odds with what u say.

Be on d lookout for moodiness. Ppl with moody personalities r often unhappy with their own lives & try to improve their situation by controlling others.

Be aware of people who don't seem to understand d word "no" & who will insist until they wear u down to make u give in.

Consider if u r often expected to change ur plans for this person.Let's say u have ur day all planned out & then u receive a phone call from a friend,& u tell them ur plans.The person wants to join in with ur plans,with d exception that ur time doesn't work well for them,or maybe that isn't d place they want to go.The next thing that u know,ur plans have totally changed.U end up seeing a movie that u didn't care to see,at a time that u didn't really care to go.

Listen for compliments.Often ppl with control issues r not very good at giving sincere compliments.They don't want u to feel good about yourself because it may take control & attention away from them.

Be on d lookout for not only moodiness,but temper outbursts by d other person when u disagree with them or don't do exactly what they want u to do. In their minds,u r challenging their authority over u.

But,keep in mind, just because someone is opinionated doesn't mean they r controlling. A good test to tell d difference between some1 who is just very opinionated or controlling is if they willingly accept or tolerate differences between u and them and don't try to change any part of ur core person or personality.

If u really love this person things can be much more difficult.Most ppl who r controlling always throw in d argument the words "U r d problem" or U have a problem." Nothing is ever their fault.

They always use words like " do this" ", "if u leave", "u need to...", etc.

They can be very generous & seem to give u lots of things.So u always feel like u're benefiting from them in some way & so owe them something. They then use that obligation u feel towards them to control u.


yeah

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:43 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 11:46 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 11-04-2011 11:38 AM
BS i hail oo

talk ya own

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:46 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 11:49 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11-04-2011 11:25 AM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 11-04-2011 11:18 AM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11-04-2011 11:14 AM
Not all controlling men r bad,, besides many women need a man like dat.

 Huh?
why do u say so?
The line between a controlling man and a submissiv woman is small.
A controlling man dusn always mean he is a bad person, or he is treating his wife bad...Sombody gotta take
d lead, so why not him.
A lot of women need a man like dat, to help them live their lives,, som womn no knw how to make
decisions, run the family, things like dat.



buh i hope you know that A controlling man considers himself as the superior and will always treat you as an ignorant and useless person. These men use rough and abusive language to suppress the emotions of their partners.

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:49 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- divineproject at 11-04-2011 11:56 AM (12 years ago)
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Reading.........and waiting for some guys on this forum that fall into this category......... Wink Wink Wink

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:56 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 11-04-2011 11:58 AM (12 years ago)
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How to deal with them:
- U shouldn't present urself in such a way that he/she finds it easily to overshadow u.
- When d controlling person is ur spouse/partner/close friend/colleague,u can't  ignore him/her completely.In such a situation,u need to show ur full cooperation.Make him/her feel that both of u work as a team & that neither of u is the Lord or the master.
- In order to facilitate a response in ur favor,u should express ur feelings in a levelheaded way.Communicate with them about d fact that u feel offended by their strange behavior.
-They often dominate others & become aggressive when they r not listened or agreed to.While dealing with such ppl,u shouldn't project yourself as a weak person,bcz they might take u for granted & start imposing their "rules" upon u.
- It's their way to make u believe that u can't do things without them.In this case,u need to make it loud & clear that u can still make decisions on ur own.Show them that u just want to share things with them,instead of depending upon their support.
- These ppl,by all means,want others to obey them.In d process,they often make pitiable faces as to gain sympathy from others. They may even show anger or go to d extent of crying to get their things done.While dealing with them,u shouldn't surrender urself. Instead,just walk away from d situation,with a smile on ur face. Wink

Posted: at 11-04-2011 11:58 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 11-04-2011 12:00 PM (12 years ago)
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oooooh ok now i understand the topic,, i didn knw u were talkin abt those serious cases sophie babe...

BS,, thx for dat...u too much! I think u said it all! Rily, well done  Kiss
Posted: at 11-04-2011 12:00 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- bittersweet at 11-04-2011 12:05 PM (12 years ago)
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U're welcome! Kiss

Posted: at 11-04-2011 12:05 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- chiglamour4u at 11-04-2011 12:16 PM (12 years ago)
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thats one habit i won't tolerate
Posted: at 11-04-2011 12:16 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 12:22 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 11-04-2011 11:58 AM
How to deal with them:
- U shouldn't present urself in such a way that he/she finds it easily to overshadow u.
- When d controlling person is ur spouse/partner/close friend/colleague,u can't  ignore him/her completely.In such a situation,u need to show ur full cooperation.Make him/her feel that both of u work as a team & that neither of u is the Lord or the master.
- In order to facilitate a response in ur favor,u should express ur feelings in a levelheaded way.Communicate with them about d fact that u feel offended by their strange behavior.
-They often dominate others & become aggressive when they r not listened or agreed to.While dealing with such ppl,u shouldn't project yourself as a weak person,bcz they might take u for granted & start imposing their "rules" upon u.
- It's their way to make u believe that u can't do things without them.In this case,u need to make it loud & clear that u can still make decisions on ur own.Show them that u just want to share things with them,instead of depending upon their support.
- These ppl,by all means,want others to obey them.In d process,they often make pitiable faces as to gain sympathy from others. They may even show anger or go to d extent of crying to get their things done.While dealing with them,u shouldn't surrender urself. Instead,just walk away from d situation,with a smile on ur face. Wink


i like dis one

Posted: at 11-04-2011 12:22 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- bittersweet at 11-04-2011 12:23 PM (12 years ago)
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Posted: at 11-04-2011 12:23 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- sophiebaby at 11-04-2011 12:26 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 11-04-2011 12:00 PM
oooooh ok now i understand the topic,, i didn knw u were talkin abt those serious cases sophie babe...

BS,, thx for dat...u too much! I think u said it all! Rily, well done  Kiss


now u knw.. what do u have to say abt it

Posted: at 11-04-2011 12:26 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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