The other day a 40 year old man who is still living with his parents was asking how he could breakaway from her parents especially her mother . According to him it all started from his teenage years when his mother will not allow him go out and even when he does he should not be home a minuit later than the stipulated time he was supposed to be home .Around 25years when he started working it was so difficult because his mother will call him several times just to ask him how he is coping at the office .One day he told his mother that he will be hanging out with friends after work, she called him severally and whe he stopped picking his phone she started calling his friends phones .This situation has prevented him from successfully dating any lady.
Recently a 16 year old guy left their home because he felt his mother was soo much on his neck, according to him "she was living his life for him"
* What do u think will make parents especially mothers to be soo protective of their children to the extent of becoming a problem to them ?
* How best do u think he should handle this problem ?
* As a young person, if you find youself in such situation ,do u think running away from home will be a good option ?
Your views please
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:04 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
Parents should learn this by now, that little kid you cuddle all the time will someday grow up and be the one to cuddle them back and take proper care of them at old age. is normal to protect a child when he/she is growing up, but at same time when he/she is coming, esp at high school level, Parents should start learning how to talk to this kids like adult, find-out from them what and what they want to be in future and guide them proper to the path they choose, what they need that moment is support over protecting anymore because whatever will be in that kid's life is about to begin and stopping him/her from achieving the aim in life will back fire and it will be problem for both parents and the rest of the family members.
Personally if i happen to be in such mess, I will leave home and seek a new path alone, as long as i know what i want for my future, despite is not going to be easy to face the world alone, but someone have to take the bull by the horn, after all some kids doesn't have their parents alive to guide them and still they make a great impact in our world.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
chiglamour4u at 1-04-2011 12:15 PM (13 years ago) (f)
maybe the guy is her only child or only son Runing away is nt the best option cos no matter hw u run u will surely cm back one day. for me i think at the initail stage i will let my mum know she can't live my life for me do most of those things she dnt wnt me to do. i think d guy allowed it and now he also is so much attach to his mother. now he hs to take a step move out frm the parents house start his own life 40years is not 4year
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:15 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
You are right the younger guy said it like his mother did not see him grow up ............she still treats him like the baby if yesterday .Dirtykid, do u think running away ia a good option ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:17 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
maybe the guy is her only child or only son Runing away is nt the best option cos no matter hw u run u will surely cm back one day. for me i think at the initail stage i will let my mum know she can't live my life for me do most of those things she dnt wnt me to do. i think d guy allowed it and now he also is so much attach to his mother. now he hs to take a step move out frm the parents house start his own life 40years is not 4year
You know one funny part .........he tried to get an appartment but the mistake was that he got one not far from his parents home .
he never slep in it for one day and gave up the idea after 3 months
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:20 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
At the office i tried to sample the opinion of other mothers and some were of the idea to overprotect their kids because the society is too bad
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:22 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
mothers love.. they do not want to see someone else care for them.. na over hold dey worry them
pakororo mama no fit do like dat naaaaaaaaaaaa she go go even find way make omo go hussle..
which one be that type ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:23 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
so what will u do when this protection becomes a problem ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:23 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
chiglamour4u at 1-04-2011 12:24 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 1-04-2011 12:21 PM
mothers love.. they do not want to see someone else care for them.. na over hold dey worry them
pakororo mama no fit do like dat naaaaaaaaaaaa she go go even find way make omo go hussle..
I tire oo na some this ajebutter mother and children. but it wnt help them cos dey will letter regret as d son dey 40years still with her i wonder hw she feels about dat
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:24 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
divineproject at 1-04-2011 12:30 PM (13 years ago) (f)
since he is an adult and can probably take care of himself, moving out is not the same as running away.......probably even at 40, he hasnt given his parents reasons to believe he has grown up..........but really I cant begin to imagine such a thing happening here, unless the guy is considered an imbecile...
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Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:30 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
mothers love.. they do not want to see someone else care for them.. na over hold dey worry them
pakororo mama no fit do like dat naaaaaaaaaaaa she go go even find way make omo go hussle..
I tire oo na some this ajebutter mother and children. but it wnt help them cos dey will letter regret as d son dey 40years still with her i wonder hw she feels about dat
the mother tells him she needs a grandchild
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:30 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
You are right the younger guy said it like his mother did not see him grow up ............she still treats him like the baby if yesterday .Dirtykid, do u think running away ia a good option ?
I will not call that running away, because running away sounds somehow;I can simply address that as stepping off the family chain to face your real world, any good and smart kid will always listen to the parents, but will not allow parents to live the life for him/her , because if he/she failed 2morrow, that person will live the rest of the life regretting and blaming him/herself why he/she didn't take the right step earlier. But let me tell you one thing, Once the parents notice that the kid is the type that stick hard to his/her decision, they don't have any choice than to let that kid go and start up life alone as he/she wanted.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:30 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:31 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
since he is an adult and can probably take care of himself, moving out is not the same as running away.......probably even at 40, he hasnt given his parents reasons to believe he has grown up..........but really I cant begin to imagine such a thing happening here, unless the guy is considered an imbecile...
In his case its not like running away , he got an appartment but his mother wount just let him sleep in it even for one day.He a a grouwn man with good career .
But for younger guys will u advice them to run awat from home ?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:33 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
You are right the younger guy said it like his mother did not see him grow up ............she still treats him like the baby if yesterday .Dirtykid, do u think running away ia a good option ?
I will not call that running away, because running away sounds somehow;I can simply address that as stepping off the family chain to face your real world, any good and smart kid will always listen to the parents, but will not allow parents to live the life for him/her , because if he/she failed 2morrow, that person will live the rest of the life regretting and blaming him/herself why he/she didn't take the right step earlier. But let me tell you one thing, Once the parents notice that the kid is the type that stick hard to his/her decision, they don't have any choice than to let that kid go and start up life alone as he/she wanted.
Some parental holds still beats my imagination even in this era
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing".
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:36 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
chiglamour4u at 1-04-2011 12:37 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: onyiis on 1-04-2011 12:30 PM
Quote from: chiglamour4u on 1-04-2011 12:24 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 1-04-2011 12:21 PM
mothers love.. they do not want to see someone else care for them.. na over hold dey worry them
pakororo mama no fit do like dat naaaaaaaaaaaa she go go even find way make omo go hussle..
I tire oo na some this ajebutter mother and children. but it wnt help them cos dey will letter regret as d son dey 40years still with her i wonder hw she feels about dat
the mother tells him she needs a grandchild
then let her free d old man na d girl wey go marry am self na wahala she go enter
Posted: at 1-04-2011 12:37 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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