Why is divorce so rampant these days?Is it not because people now prepare for wedding more than they prepare for marriage? Most parents are not concentrating on teaching their children how to build a good family anymore but put more interest on how the wedding day will be?Most people do not even know why they get married.Is marriage all about money?
Posted: at 22-12-2010 04:49 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
dumosky2010 at 22-12-2010 04:51 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Because you only do marriage, not wedding....so common here in the States....always court not church
Posted: at 22-12-2010 04:51 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
Wedding is a special event, but marriage is a process.Wedding is a one-day affair, but marriage is "until death do us part". Sometimes, wedding is a four-hour affair which people invest so much on, but marriage which is for life is not given required attention, preparation and quality investment.Wedding is a public event, that is why it is usually attended by people from all works of life, but marriage is a private affair. After wedding, witnesses, supporters, sponsors, ministers of God, bridal train withdraw to their homes, and marriage between the bride and groom begins privately in their newly found home.I hope someone understands better now
Posted: at 4-01-2011 12:21 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
Wedding is a special event, but marriage is a process.Wedding is a one-day affair, but marriage is "until death do us part". Sometimes, wedding is a four-hour affair which people invest so much on, but marriage which is for life is not given required attention, preparation and quality investment.Wedding is a public event, that is why it is usually attended by people from all works of life, but marriage is a private affair. After wedding, witnesses, supporters, sponsors, ministers of God, bridal train withdraw to their homes, and marriage between the bride and groom begins privately in their newly found home.I hope someone understands better now
you have got brains.
Posted: at 4-01-2011 10:47 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
Celestial1 at 5-01-2011 02:40 AM (13 years ago) (f)
There are legitimate reasons for seeking a divorce, and nobody should be vilified for choosing to leave a marriage for legitimate reasons. When you have lived long enough in this world you realize that you can do everything right and still not reap a harvest.
Posted: at 5-01-2011 02:40 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
@poster.you are right.most people spend too much energy and time on wedding preparation and think less about life after wedding.and sumtimes,its money issues.spending all the money they have on wedding or taking loans and not been able to pay back can really stress both couple up.big time stress,instead of been happy they are sad ,cos they are thinking too much and working too hard just to pay back the loans.and you are so right,most people dont even know why they get married or why they are getting married.hmmm seems everyone is so quick to forget that love is patient.A true love grows with time.
Posted: at 5-01-2011 02:48 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
banana4good at 5-01-2011 03:04 AM (13 years ago) (m)
marriage is not about money, marriage need knowledge ,even if your parents don't teach you anything about marriage,you are not a baby,you can lien from books, lien from the mistake others did,if there is something you don't know how to do it,ask someone that have the knowledge of marriage,there are some ppl there father and mother fight almost every day,don't allow such ppl to teach you anything about marriage,because if they do,you will fight your husband one day,marriage is for better for wost, is not a holiday,
Posted: at 5-01-2011 03:04 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
marriage is not about money, marriage need knowledge ,even if your parents don't teach you anything about marriage,you are not a baby,you can lien from books, lien from the mistake others did,if there is something you don't know how to do it,ask someone that have the knowledge of marriage,there are some ppl there father and mother fight almost every day,don't allow such ppl to teach you anything about marriage,because if they do,you will fight your husband one day,marriage is for better for wost, is not a holiday,
nice one.learning from others mistakes is the best.life is a lesson.
Posted: at 5-01-2011 03:07 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
Wedding is a special event, but marriage is a process.Wedding is a one-day affair, but marriage is "until death do us part". Sometimes, wedding is a four-hour affair which people invest so much on, but marriage which is for life is not given required attention, preparation and quality investment.Wedding is a public event, that is why it is usually attended by people from all works of life, but marriage is a private affair. After wedding, witnesses, supporters, sponsors, ministers of God, bridal train withdraw to their homes, and marriage between the bride and groom begins privately in their newly found home.I hope someone understands better now
Posted: at 5-01-2011 05:56 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Plzzzzz tell me the dif btw marriage and wedding cos am lost here
most marriage don't work cos
1. TRUST: No body can truly be in love without trusting. most marriage don't work cos eg the sopuses suspects one another for infidelity or diverting/wasting the finances.
2. BELIEVE: When u don't trust someone u can't believe that person except. Any couple who don't trust and believe can't love one another.
3.COMMUNICATION: A gap is always left in marriage when theres a communication breach between couples. Learn to talk to ur spouse and also learn to listen attentively, besides advice them and say ur opinions in a right manner: with respect.
4. RESPECT: spouses should learn to respect one another totally. also its important to respect relatives, inlaws, colleagues, friends and neighbours.
SEX: don't be selfish during love making. for couples, love making is a sacred vow between the couple and GOD to always love one another. it also means that the couple are one being. it has a very deep spiritual implication when violated cos it involves the fusion of both spirit and body. NEVER INDULGE IN EXTRA MARRITAL SEX.
LOVE: Learn to love ur spouses and be in love with one another without clause.
Always see positivity in any thing your partner does and support him/her if u've both analysed it. Learn to accept faults and appologise. Don't raise any ego Don't bring a third party into ur union. Before ur children came ur spouse was. Spend quality time with ur spouse alone. spend quality time with kids and also take time to have holidays or leisures with ur family. tough times will always certainly come don't loose hope on them or ur union.
MOST IMPORTANTLY PRAY TOGETHER ALWAYS
happy married lives to all married and May GOD direct all singles in finding their rightful GOD GIVEN partner amen
Posted: at 5-01-2011 06:24 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
cyril4christ at 5-01-2011 07:23 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: adaudeze on 4-01-2011 12:21 PM
Wedding is a special event, but marriage is a process.Wedding is a one-day affair, but marriage is "until death do us part". Sometimes, wedding is a four-hour affair which people invest so much on, but marriage which is for life is not given required attention, preparation and quality investment.Wedding is a public event, that is why it is usually attended by people from all works of life, but marriage is a private affair. After wedding, witnesses, supporters, sponsors, ministers of God, bridal train withdraw to their homes, and marriage between the bride and groom begins privately in their newly found home.I hope someone understands better now
yah u make sense, hope they will understand it now
Posted: at 5-01-2011 07:23 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
cyril4christ at 5-01-2011 07:26 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: onyin on 5-01-2011 02:48 AM
@poster.you are right.most people spend too much energy and time on wedding preparation and think less about life after wedding.and sumtimes,its money issues.spending all the money they have on wedding or taking loans and not been able to pay back can really stress both couple up.big time stress,instead of been happy they are sad ,cos they are thinking too much and working too hard just to pay back the loans.and you are so right,most people dont even know why they get married or why they are getting married.hmmm seems everyone is so quick to forget that love is patient.A true love grows with time.
nice one there
Posted: at 5-01-2011 07:26 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
cyril4christ at 5-01-2011 07:30 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: banana4good on 5-01-2011 03:04 AM
marriage is not about money, marriage need knowledge ,even if your parents don't teach you anything about marriage,you are not a baby,you can lien from books, lien from the mistake others did,if there is something you don't know how to do it,ask someone that have the knowledge of marriage,there are some ppl there father and mother fight almost every day,don't allow such ppl to teach you anything about marriage,because if they do,you will fight your husband one day,marriage is for better for wost, is not a holiday,
u have said it all brother,Learning from others mistake is the best teaching u can received
Posted: at 5-01-2011 07:30 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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