hello pals....i droped a line this morning seeking for your advice on my marital decision to my fiancee of 6yrs.i stoped by this evening to check on your opinions and advice.i want to say a big thank to everyone who stoped over to drop a line and for airing your views....
we'r africans,and we all know that no marriage can happen especially in the eastern part of the country without both parents or families coming together.if it were possible i would have long opted for it.you can't run through the traditional rights without your parents or family members accompanying you.no relation will join you to your supposed inlaws,when your parents aint consenting and are still very much alive.not to talk of,if the said parents are influential....am saying this because i have seriously thought about it and explored all possible means to go around it,i mean all..even if we decide to go the court to solemnize it,do you think my said in-laws will give their consent to that.they have always asked me to go get the consent of my parents..friends am in a fix and it's dicey..lets forget about the issue of trying to convience them.i have the backing of my siblings on this,thats my joy.
As for leaving the country...yes we're doing exceedingly well here in Nigeria.but we can't be here and achieve what we want.we'v weighed it..am a subsea/drilling engineer and will going there as an international staff,she's a doctor and will somehow fit into their system.life is going to be fine,though home is home...sometimes home can be hell for everyone of us.we aint staying there forever,but to buy time to settel in as a family,build a home with kids and then come home to face them...
as for marrying out of pity...am way too matured for that.we'r taking life along affairs not mere relationship.am here and there because i love her and am proud of it.she's the center of my world and have been for six years...pals am way gone going this....
i feel so light inside,having shared this with people i know can't reach them to tell them of my plans,because i could'nt even trust my friends with it...but it was too heavy for me to carry inside....thanks pals,am enternally grateful for you advices and concern.i pray non of you steps into my shoes...it sure does hurt..bye.