hello everyone, please i need advice, not insults for i am in a lot of pain.this is my third heartbreak this year and i am beginning to think something is wrong somewhere.
I officially started a relationship with this guy in September. Things were going on well till he went through my bbm messages and saw some chat msgs between i and my friend, of which it was nothing horrible or messy just gists and jokes like u share with people who hv being friends with u for years. He was upset but after a while we settled and things were going on smoothly.
On friday he told me he would be going to his place to see his mom on saturday to be back on sunday, we talked and gisted while he was in the bus, we were so happy, nothing was wrong. Then i called in the evening to find out if he had gotten there, initially his phone was switched off and then later when his phone was switched on, he didnt pick. I called from saturday night till sunday evening, he didnt pick my call. I sent text msgs, bbm msgs, he refused to respond. I was so worried, that I then called his brother who informed me, he was back and he was okay. That was when i knew some thing was amiss. I then sent him a very long text msg. Then he reponded.In summary he just said: i am a very good person, i deserve better not a player like him. he prays God gives me someone who would treat me like the queen i am. He went further to say that we can never get married that his family are not in support of his relationship with me.
I was shocked i never discussed marriage with him, i have never done that. finally i after much pleading through text, he picked my call. He then said he told them at home of his relationship with me and when they heard i was from edo state, they refused. He said his family didnt agree because his elder brother is with an edo person, and now he too wants to bring another edo girl again, that he can marry from any other place but not edo state.
I begged him to see reason, at least if he loves me, he said he is not changing his mind. I then pleaded with him, that as a favour to me, he should give me till december with him, he refused. He went as far as deleting me from his BBM. And deleting all my numbers. he told me he does not even care.The funniest part is initially when he started asking me out, i told him NO, but he was so persistent that he loves me and even went as far to say that he already told his family about me and that hope my family wont mind me getting married to a yoruba person, he didnt allow me rest till i agreed.Another painful part is that we work in the same organization.I have the punishment to face him everyday and there's nothing i can do about it. I am very confused.I had get to work very early, so i could be alone to cry and prepare myself for today, i really dont know how i can cope with this.
Personally i am not the desperate type, neither am i someone quick to sleep with any guy.
My friends close to me, who have heard my story all say the guy is a big liar, that he is just using what he said as an excuse. I am so confused, please how do i get over this, what should i do? Please advice me.