My elder bro and his wife are still staying with us. I don't really have a problem with that but his wife is kind of annoying,if she cook in d kitchen,u must know somebody cooked in that kitchen bcus the gas will be dirty,all the ingredient she use for cooking will be on the kitchen table,the plates she used will not be arrange(since she's not washing atlist she should arrange them),evry where will just look dirty. anytime I enter the kitchen I will be the one arranging them,and she will still do thesame if she still cook again that day.. Am always doing it mayb when she see me,she will understand its wrong and she will change but its not working..according to our tradition as a guy am not suppose to be doing all that when she's around since they are still staying with us.. Another thing is that since her junior sis came around to spend the holiday with her,both of them always speak hausa in our house bcus they grow up in the north but we don't understand hausa.. I don't knw if am wrong but to me I believe someone should not speak in another language in a family house because it will look as if you are gossiping,talking bad about the family or someone in the family and being secretive.. I want to confront her about all this but i don't want to course problem between her and her husband..please how do I go about it