Lost in both worlds... Pals, my story goes like this. I'm a young guy (25), I'm having a serious relationship that I pray should lead us into marriage. But my issue now is that, there is this other girl that I happen to have "lay with" (Nobody is above mistakes), She got pregnant (she said I was the father), but she told me that she want to abort the pregnancy. I didn't have much to add to her already made-up mind, I just gave her some amount of money (though, she didn't demand for abortion money). She did the abortion has she planned. Since then, she has been calling/texting/pingi ng me all the time, I barely call her. I would have been able to tell her off, but because of the abortion thing she did, I'm finding it hard to tell her that I'm not in love with her, cos the first thing that would come to her mind is "he has used me, so he wants to dump me" (Girls mentality). But seriously, I need to tell her so as not to make start over jubilating that she has found her Mr right. On the other hand, my girlfriend and I stay very far apart, and she got herself dis-virgined by her colleague at work (she told me about the whole scenario... I forgave her, cos I knew I've done worst). Now, my plead with you guys is.... How can I tell a girl off without really making a big scene out of it?