Hello i am a 22 year old nigerian lady.seeking spiritual advice on my marriage.I am from aqua ibom state and i have been married to a 34 year old american man since november last year.I am hurt and seeking spiritual encouragement because i am kinda at the point of giving up.We live in The US .I was raped by man before meeting my husband and got pregnant and had a baby ,i was very hurt by what he did but i still tried to make him be responsible to help me take care of his daughter but he refused so afwouldter going through what that for a loñg time i just let it go and i decided that i really didnt want to keep wasting my time onthe issue because everytime i called or thought about reaching out to hm he wouldnt do what he was supposed to do and it would bring back memories and pain from the in cident and remind me ofnwhat i had b went through with him so i stopped bothering myself with it and decided to take care of the baby myself.I met m y husband since we have been together he hasnt had a stable job but he has been had part time gigs here and there but no real job and everytime i tell him to look around and find something responsible to do as a job he thinks because.he haw past feloñies and criminal record there is no way but i told him there is a a way as loñg as he pray and look around well enough but everytime i try to keep remanding him he acts like i am lying and its impossible anf he says i put too much pressure on him about getting a job and congconghe asks me why i dont pressurize my childs father to pay child support and to him its like i let him go skot free but i try to tellbhim that i believe that God has a way in making him come and take care of the baby sooñer or latee but he thinks i am trying to defend my african person because he is from congo but its not even like that at all and on top of that he really likes to janf out most of the time with drinkers most of the days of the week than call places or talk to people tjat will at least get him a part time job and evetytime i try to talk to him we argue alot but i try to explain to him yjat if hebdoes the right thing there would be peace our marraige.Am I wrong to ask my husband not to ge bothered in pressurising my childs father and just let God fight this batthw for us or do you think i should continue to press him out for the money??How will I make my husband see tjat he can still do whatever he has to do to take care of me and my baby without demanding that her fatherbeing invollved ,i dont want a divorce but.i need spiritial encouragement and uplifting to comtinue to pray for my marraige bacause when we fight it because abusive sometimes and.i just want him to understand where i am coming from.Help.