There is a saying that says patience is the way for a leaceful marraige but its easier said than done in my own case.I am a young nigerian lady in my early 20s and i am married to an american guy in his early 30s,i have a daughter from a previous relationship,when my husband and i met i was pregnant but he stuck with me until now that she is almost a yr old but my problem is that my husband is always hanging out with people that he calls friends( they are bice people but all they like to do all day and night is drink beers and smoke cigarrettes all day and night if possible they also smoke drugs somwtimes and 80%of them dont want to work or look for a job),i try to get him to stay away from those people and be a liitle more serious and focused in finding something to do himself but he dosent listen to me and says that hes been knowing them for a long time but they are not helping him grow at least but he dosent.want to listen when he goes there,he dosent know when to stop drinking and start coming home,by the time i would have come home with the baby around,8or 9pm .my husband woyld want to come home 11 or12 when we would have been sleeping and starts making noise asjking for food to eat and movies to watch,a lot of times,the baby has to go to daycare but he dosent understand as much as i try to tell him to stop all these thinhs he is doing and listen to sound advice.It handshas gotten to the point of anytime i tell him what he does wrong he challenges me andbarely listens by asking me why are you always telling me what i did wrong instead of.asking the babys father and.pressurising him to take care of his.child,you are always telling me how i am wrong in things.It always seems to me now that until the babys father stepps up and take.care of his child he will not want to play his role as my husband and itsreally hurting me.Her father raped me and everytime i even try to explain to him that he needs to come and lets do a paternity test ast least he neber has reached out to me for it and he hasnt even tried to give me any money for the baby and i just wanted to leave him alone for God to judge him and continue living my life with my husband but he dosent want to help me out until i keep pressurising her father and i habe tried,i cant force someone to take care of thier.child.but how can i make my husband see that he can still play his role to help us out and change for the better and how can i bring peace to the marraige??what else can i do to make my husband see that Gods way is the best and to leave her father alone ??i have prayed and cried to God on the issue of my marraige and i need more spiritual advice and help to feel encouraged to trust in God on this issue bevause i seriously believe that the devil is trying to destroy my home because we all go to church to gether and i pray but i need more help on this issue.Naijapals pls help thanks and God bless you all.