A friend of mine got married to a girl he dn't really love because the girl told him she was pregnant for him, he decide to marry the girl because he dn't want to commit abortion, after having a second baby which is a boy, the guy find out something he was not confortable abt the womans phone and he asked her some questions and the woman confessed the he is not the biological father of the first baby who is a girl and now he wants to end the marriage. wht is ur advice to him?
Posted: at 7-04-2011 12:30 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
hmmmmmmmmm! This is really a delicate issue. Deception on the part of the girl. It is so unfortunate that your friend is in this situation. He shouldn't had rushed into marriage because the girl got pregnant. He can ask the wife to take the baby to her father or he can adopt the baby as his own. As for a divorce, I really dont know about that. I guess they can still make things work again with time.
Posted: at 7-04-2011 01:57 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
princeabedi at 7-04-2011 02:10 PM (13 years ago) (m)
thx for ur advice. the truth is tht he has paid her bride price but offically not wedded at the church and becos the love has not been there from day and he was believing he will love her till this all saga happened...
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:10 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
bittersweet at 7-04-2011 02:15 PM (13 years ago) (f)
If the church wedding wasn't done, then actually they are not even married (at least not in God's eyes) , so if he really doesn't love her,he can put an end to that charade!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:15 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
If the church wedding wasn't done, then actually they are not even married (at least not in God's eyes) , so if he really doesn't love her,he can put an end to that charade!
i disgree with you ...what you said ...you see the red line..
since he already paid the bride price is he married to her and God was in their mixed...after tradition wedding is not most one have to wed in church...ok.
@poster....this is one problem with some guys...when they got a woman pregnant they will think the next thing to do is to get married to the girl...han...because she is pregnant for you doesn't mean..you should marry her if you don't see you to be with her for years...if she decise to keep the baby..let her do and make show yu support the child that if the child is yours...do a DNA test t confirm if the child is really urs' and if it read positive then step up and become a father in that child life..well.....let him follow his heart and mind.
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:26 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
bittersweet at 7-04-2011 02:32 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: HOPEA23 on 7-04-2011 02:26 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 7-04-2011 02:15 PM
If the church wedding wasn't done, then actually they are not even married (at least not in God's eyes) , so if he really doesn't love her,he can put an end to that charade!
i disgree with you ...what you said ...you see the red line..
since he already paid the bride price is he married to her and God was in their mixed...after tradition wedding is not most one have to wed in church...ok.
Where I live,if the church wedding it's not done,then that union hasn't God's blessing, and it's logical so! But u also may be right, because I don't know what that bride payment involves exactly! But here,are some religious services which must be done in order for that union to be recognized in God's eyes! Hope u understood me,Hope!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:32 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
A friend of mine got married to a girl he dn't really love because the girl told him she was pregnant for him, he decide to marry the girl because he dn't want to commit abortion, after having a second baby which is a boy, the guy find out something he was not confortable abt the womans phone and he asked her some questions and the woman confessed the he is not the biological father of the first baby who is a girl and now he wants to end the marriage. wht is ur advice to him?
Once she confessed and DNA test prove that right as well; Marriage Over !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:41 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
harold634 at 7-04-2011 02:44 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: bittersweet on 7-04-2011 02:15 PM
If the church wedding wasn't done, then actually they are not even married (at least not in God's eyes) , so if he really doesn't love her,he can put an end to that charade!
IF THIS COUPLES ARE FROM NIGERIA, THE WOMAN BRIDE PRICE IS OFFICIAL, ACCEPTED BY EVERYBODY AND RECOGNIZE BY GOD.
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:44 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 7-04-2011 02:46 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: harold634 on 7-04-2011 02:44 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on 7-04-2011 02:15 PM
If the church wedding wasn't done, then actually they are not even married (at least not in God's eyes) , so if he really doesn't love her,he can put an end to that charade!
IF THIS COUPLES ARE FROM NIGERIA, THE WOMAN BRIDE PRICE IS OFFICIAL, ACCEPTED BY EVERYBODY AND RECOGNIZE BY GOD.
Aha! Thx for the info
Live and let live!
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:46 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
harold634 at 7-04-2011 02:53 PM (13 years ago) (m)
IT IS NOT GOOD TO MARRY BY FORCE, PITY OR ANYTHING THAT HAS TO CONDITION U OTHERWISE, U WILL CRASH OUT SOONER THAN EXPECTED. MARRIAGE SHOULD BE BASED ON UNCONDITIONAL REALITIES. TELL UR FRIEND NOT TO RUSH INTO DIVORCE 4 NOW, HE SHOULD GO 4 DNA TEST B4 TAKEN ANY DECISION THAT WILL SUITE HIM.
Posted: at 7-04-2011 02:53 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
thx for ur advice. the truth is tht he has paid her bride price but offically not wedded at the church and becos the love has not been there from day and he was believing he will love her till this all saga happened...
My dear, as long as the bride price has been paid, they are married. Church or no church wedding. Anyway, he shouldn't be in a hurry. Let him pray about it. I pray, There's nothing God cannot do.
Posted: at 7-04-2011 03:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
If the church wedding wasn't done, then actually they are not even married (at least not in God's eyes) , so if he really doesn't love her,he can put an end to that charade!
i disgree with you ...what you said ...you see the red line..
since he already paid the bride price is he married to her and God was in their mixed...after tradition wedding is not most one have to wed in church...ok.
@poster....this is one problem with some guys...when they got a woman pregnant they will think the next thing to do is to get married to the girl...han...because she is pregnant for you doesn't mean..you should marry her if you don't see you to be with her for years...if she decise to keep the baby..let her do and make show yu support the child that if the child is yours...do a DNA test t confirm if the child is really urs' and if it read positive then step up and become a father in that child life..well.....let him follow his heart and mind.
Thank you hope. Well said.
Posted: at 7-04-2011 03:17 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Emmandazie at 7-04-2011 05:08 PM (13 years ago) (m)
FrmBS, "Where I live,if the church wedding it's not done,then that union hasn't God's blessing, and it's logical so! But u also may be right, because I don't know what that bride payment involves exactly! But here,are some religious services which must be done in order for that union to be recognized in God's eyes! Hope u understood me,Hope!"
I agree to a reasonable extent. Marraige goes through 3 stages depending on the societal conception. In my purely African context,once bride price is paid- even started, they could be considered married. In legal terminology, the term "marriage" is used only when the two parties have carried their civil status formalities. Now, I who incorporate all these conceptions, the term "marriage" to me is complete only when they have carried their traditional rites to obtain good wishes from their various families, done civil rites to protect each other in case of unforeseen, and gone to solemnise in churh to obtain God's blessings!
Posted: at 7-04-2011 05:08 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Emmandazie at 7-04-2011 05:12 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Sheree on 7-04-2011 01:57 PM
hmmmmmmmmm! This is really a delicate issue. Deception on the part of the girl. It is so unfortunate that your friend is in this situation. He shouldn't had rushed into marriage because the girl got pregnant. He can ask the wife to take the baby to her father or he can adopt the baby as his own. As for a divorce, I really dont know about that. I guess they can still make things work again with time.
You may say that again and rightly too, but he could not foresee such a lie. Don't tell me even you can detect the inner heart of an individual! Some responsible boys will not want their children to be born out of their own homes and the only way to avoid that is to fomalie their relationship!
Posted: at 7-04-2011 05:12 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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