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« posted : August 09, 2008, 10:49:08 PM » |
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Hi fellow naijapals,
A lady friend of mine ponder over an issue and ask thus;
[size=10ptThis is something that I think about quite often as I am ready for Mr. Right to come along. Men, tell me some of the things that are important in a relationship? Does how a woman look rank first in your book? How about how her spirit is? Lets try, is it only for sex?, money?, property? or prestige?? Does being a Christian work for or against a woman? Is cooking important? How about nurturing? Do you think that there is a difference between Sex or Romance? What do you think of when a woman tells you that she wants a REAL MAN??[/size][/color]
Over to you gentlemen and ladies too, what are the answers to these thoughts???[/color]
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« posted : August 10, 2008, 01:24:38 AM » |
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Ok here's my take on what men want in a woman... as i have replied the lady. Well, let me just first say that this is only MY opinion. I think men want the following:
1. A physical allure. Yes we are visual creatures. This is not necessarily beauty we crave, but more about her look being appealing to our individual preferences.
2. We look for a certain "swagger". We want a woman who is comfortable in her own skin. Has a confident air that shows throughout her personality ( This comes back to haunt us later, sometimes). With decency and great sense of humor.
3. We look for femininity. Yes we want her to have the confident swagger, but we want her to look, feel, smell, taste, dress, and move LIKE A WOMAN!
4. We want her to have a desire to please us. Not bow down to us, but desire to please us. Women mess this up a lot ( they will attempt to please us by doing the things they THINK we will love, instead of doing the things we TOLD THEM WE LOVE...oops, that's a different blog).
5. We want a woman who KNOWS what she believes; has a strong knowledge base, but doesn't try to take our leadership from us (even if she can do a better job...and if she can do better, then we want her to slide us a little teaching into our thick heads, not beat us down with it.) well motivated and creative in ideas.
6. We want a woman who will accept the fact that we aren't great men YET, and will encourage us to greatness, not badger us because we haven't acheived yet. And no matter how successful we are she is willing to remain a good backer. Afterall is common saying that, behind every successful man there is a woman.
7. We want a woman who will pray for us. You'd be surprised the effect on us when we see & hear you pray for us.
8. We want a woman who will exert actual energy in physical intimacy. Get on top; lick here, suck there and gently guide us in what we need to do to bring you to ; and occasionally allow us to F--- you rather than always make love. This is sometimes not always to keep the relationship lively as it was from beginning. Also, give us the same level of romance as you want...but see number 4. (uh..we're all grown, so pardon my bluntness)
9. We want a woman who will share. You shouldn't have to take care of a grown man, but if you have a pack of hot dogs already in the fridge, don't make us go buy another pack when you crave a hot dog (did that make sense?) that is genious in making the best out of any moment. Caring!.
10. We want an independent woman, but only meaning you don't NEED us to support you. You don't have to come to the table with as much as us. But you need to be willing to come to the table period! Even if neither of us has a table. That is an intelligent liberal woman, down to earth, simple and understanding.
11. We want a woman who will uplift our character in our presence and out of our presence. Don't be afraid to speak a kind word on our behalf. It won't make our heads swell. Only our hearts. We want women to understand us enough to know when to talk and when to shut-up, LISTEN and USE, the information you get from your man to please your man.
12. We want a woman who will give us enough rope to hang ourselves. This calls for women to trust again, even though you may have been hurt before. Many men dont give a damn about what you have done in the past, or what has worked in the past.[/color]
13. We want a woman who can accept a man's flirtations without destroying him in rejection, yet also without giving him any reason to believe that you might give him the coochie or time that you have labeled as belonging to us. Whew. This one is deep. You might want to read it twice....Basically, reject dudes who try to hit on you, but don't crush their ego or make them feel sorry for the boyfriend. Lol
[color=brown]and the most important one.....[/color]
14. We want a woman who loves us without measure! And shows it.[/[/color][/b]b]
That's what REAL MEN want. But you probably should have asked what we really NEED. The two lists are a little different.
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« posted : August 12, 2008, 02:42:32 PM » |
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U're really a proffessor samdee! Keep it up. We'll see to it and pray it works
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« posted : August 12, 2008, 08:08:05 PM » |
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well,my answer to this is quite simple,while choosing a woman,i must have had in my mind what i want from her.i.e marriage or just fun.most men know what they want from a woman so if its just for the fun of it,you dont expect them to go for a christian or a religious sister.
In choosing my life partner,i look at everythin,that is all the good qualities which includes beauty,goodshape,morals etc.i even look at some of the slightest problems on a woman,which could be whether she walks recklessly or gently.sincerely speakin,i look at everythin!
this is baecause i wouldnt want a situation whereby after marrying a woman i start lookin at other women,although whichever woman you marry there must be anotherone better than her.
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« posted : August 13, 2008, 11:02:43 AM » |
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These days most people find it hard to answer some honest and simple questions like this. wat does a man want in a wonam or vice-versa.
There is so much muddling up of terms these day but the fact still remains that all guys and all girls wants to settle down someone that would love them for whom they are.
I have friends that have gold but would want to check out silver and before you know it they might miss out on what is good for them while trying to check out what is not there.
i believe that no one is perfect even you and i but it takes a good heart to appreciate one for who he/she is and try to improve on that. For instance, i can say that i want a perfect woman, when i know that i'm not perfect.
Let us all learn to appreciate what we have as one cannot give what one doesnt have.
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Life is made of millions of moments, but we live only one of these moments at a time. As we begin to change this moment, we begin to change our lives
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« posted : August 14, 2008, 04:49:26 AM » |
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i believe some one to be there babe's mama and start up a new family.
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« posted : August 14, 2008, 04:00:27 PM » |
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Well, speaking from experience in as much as there are Men that are after Ladies 4 wats in_btw their legs the Women Folk hv their rizins 2. 4 the gud Men they may want you 4 jst who u are with respect to what u stnd 4, wat u believe n most importantly, if he can trust u. cheers
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« posted : August 18, 2008, 12:40:23 PM » |
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Whatever it is i want in my woman has to come natural. i do not believing in spending time or trying to build up what is not.. A matured, understanding, educated, woman will capture my heart anytime anyday(already hooked) .. She must be a lady who knows what she wants and not complicated..
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« posted : August 23, 2008, 03:49:51 PM » |
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what they don't have in them.....i suppose?
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Most wanted for not how much I do but for how much I put into the doing
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« posted : October 04, 2008, 11:01:48 PM » |
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They want Sex Money and Love...
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« posted : October 13, 2008, 02:21:05 AM » |
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They want Sex Money and Love...
the topic is wat u want in a woman and not vice versa |
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« posted : October 13, 2008, 02:39:59 AM » |
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too colourful
am colour blind just kidding
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« posted : October 14, 2008, 07:26:05 PM » |
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Money, Sex and Love and Lost sometimes
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« posted : October 17, 2008, 11:39:54 AM » |
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companion.
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