Hi Every Pal,

I would be pleased if you all could advice me on the best way possible to tell her that we need to stop seeing each other without causing her any headache.

We use to love each other before I left her seven years ago after a 3year affair and get married to someone else afterwards. I now have 3 children, all boys. I love my wife so much cause she is open, down-to-hearth, infact she possess all a man should dream of in marriage including beauty. I mean she is really beautiful!!!!

But over the last four years, I have been cheating on my lovely wife because my EX-GIRL FRIEND would not let me be. I am also personally finding it difficult to stop thinking about her. Something in me tells me I still love her and I can also see all over her that she loves me too despite me status. Quite honestly, she is not desperate for husband otherwise I would have said she is trying to hook on to me. She has suitors but would not let go of me. I can now see this as an impending Danger since I would never in my life take on a second wife and if I do not stop seeing her as soon as possible, age would no longer be on her side as she is now 30years old.

How should I go by it Plleassssssssssssssssssssssssssssss?

@ poster, i guess u said that ur wife is down to earth and God has blessed u guys with kids, so i think its high time u stop seeing ur ex...think of what will happen if ur wife gets to find out. its gonna break ur home....and a broken home will ruin the future of ur kids...
a stitch in time, saves............

who knows...may be his ex is very skillful in bed .. or perhaps his wife....is vecchia 

You need Jesus!!

Then You need me!!

no matter how much u love this so called ex of urs u must let it go. u decided to take another wife and u cant change that now. once u let go f these feelings for ur ex, the u will be able to love ur actual wife. in marriage there are test and temptation u will seek. and u are failing in both categories.

Thanks a million everyone.

My EX and I have nothing hidden as brightossy tot.
@vivian07, my wife is even better in bed than my EX. U c, all these are some of the puzzles I quite find difficult to solve.

as for welli and vivian07, no quarrel please. Everyone has got their diffrenet ways of giving opinions.

Anyway, your replies (Imean everyone who has contributed so far) have make a lot of impact and I am beginning to strategise my quiting with my EX. I have never given the consequence of what I was doing a tot for once should my wife finds out. I would not want to do anything to destroy my happy and lovely family. It's been absolutely wonderful posting this issue on this forum.

One love to you all.

Thanks for that, I want to beleive you read my post in full. Anyway I have not ruined her life as I could tell you categorically that she could be married if she wants to in a couple of months. There are suitors and I mean suitors as in suitors. Not giving them opportunity is part of those things that still surprises me a lot and I mean a lot. If only you know how serious this issue is in my hearth. Nobody is ruinning anybody here.
Thanks anyway.